Saturday, 9 June 2012

CURRENT SOCIAL ISSUES


Questions
According to Al-Ghazali, the moral decay happens when there is an inverse relationship between prosperity and moral decline. Elaborate on this statement.

Introduction
The world is changed, the period is faster. Eventually, we are easier to forget our good identity along our life. Nowadays, our environment had many changes to develop likes the others development countries. Malaysia is the one of changed country became more exposed with the level social in society especially teenagers. Undeniably, we are accepting the positive change through economics, buildings, industries, investments, agricultures and so forth. In fact, the issues that are aroused by people about moral decay whether old or young. Many parties include government, non-government or individuals tried to control and handle this problem which grows like mushroom. They gave suggestion, argument, programs and activities to lease social problems. But, it is bigger than our expectation.  The negative behavior is not proper as a symbol of the weaker society.
Therefore, I would like to highlight Muslim teenagers because they are foundation for our nation and Muslim reflected Islam as a formal religion for Malaysia. We as a leading religion not only in this country but also in this universe should practice good moral and values in our life because we are the Khairu Ummah (the best Ummah) in this universe. Allah said in Quran (3:110), ‘You are the best of the nations raised up for (the benefit of) men;...’
It should be stand with the great principles and moral values related humanism and religion. Indeed, it based on Quran and Sunnah. The Prophet Muhammad is a good role model for us through His good character. He said that He is sent by God to accomplish the good moral.

Definition
In Oxford student`s dictionary,Moral” as a adjectives means concerned with what is right and wrong and having a high standard of behavior that is considered good and right by most people. In others meaning as a noun, it refers to standards of good behavior and a lesson in the right way to behave that can be learnt from a story or an experience.
While the others gave meaning moral as a noun as the quality or state of being morally sound good, goodness, probity, rectitude, righteousness, rightness, uprightness, virtue, virtuousness and also the moral quality of a course of action: ethic (used in plural), ethicality, ethicalness, propriety, righteousness, rightfulness, rightness. A rule or habit of conduct with regard to right and wrong or a body of such rules and habits: ethic, ethicality, moral (used in plural). See right/wrong.[1] The others standard college dictionaries carries out the word ‘moral’ is “pertaining to or concerned with right conduct or the distinction between right or wrong”.[2]
Actually, the word “morality” is always used to determine behavior`s people which is supposing to principles concerning what is good and bad or right and wrong behaviour.[3] “Morality” can be classified as a noun, plural as moralities. It can be defined  the quality of being in accord with standards of right or good conduct, a system of ideas of right and wrong conduct: religious morality; Christian morality, virtuous conduct and a rule or lesson in moral conduct.[4]
Morality (from the Latin moralitas "manner, character, proper behavior") is the differentiation among intentions, decisions, and actions between those that are good (or right) and bad (or wrong). A moral code is a system of morality (for example, according to a particular philosophy, religion, culture, etc.) and a moral is any one practice or teaching within a moral code. The adjective moral is synonymous with "good" or "right." Immorality is the active opposition to morality whether good or right, while amorality is variously defined as an unawareness of, indifference toward, or disbelief in any set of moral standards or principles.[5]
If we relate morality to ethical issues, which means principles of right and wrong conduct as well as instances of real behaviour and the manner in which individuals, comply more or less fully with such standards. Based on the Latin mor is a ‘manner, custom’. It covers all kinds of human actions, although it is often associated specifically with virtue in sexual conduct. To encourage moral conduct, early theological representations of sin and evil highlighted the body's capacity for suffering. In the medieval and early modern ages, morality referred to a religious framework; through diet and bodily maintenance, the individual was expected to defend himself against the temptation of the flesh.[6]
Although the morality of people and their ethics amount to the same thing, there is a usage that restricts morality to systems such as that of Kant, based on notions such as duty, obligation, and principles of conduct, reserving ethics for the more Aristotelian approach to practical reasoning, based on the notion of a virtue, and generally avoiding the separation of ‘moral’ considerations from other practical considerations. The scholarly issues are complex, with some writers seeing Kant as more Aristotelian, and Aristotle as more involved with a separate sphere of responsibility and duty, than the simple contrast suggests.[7]
Ethics are also known as moral philosophy is that branch of philosophy which addresses questions about morality. The word 'ethics' is "commonly used interchangeably with 'morality' to mean the subject matter of this study; and sometimes it is used more narrowly to mean the moral principles of a particular tradition, group, or individual." Likewise, certain types of ethical theories, especially deontological ethics, sometimes distinguish between 'ethics' and 'morals': "Although the morality of people and their ethics amounts to the same thing, there is a usage that restricts morality to systems such as that of Kant, based on notions such as duty, obligation, and principles of conduct, reserving ethics for the more Aristotelian approach to practical reasoning, based on the notion of a virtue, and generally avoiding the separation of 'moral' considerations from other practical considerations."[8]
The differences between moral and ethics is moral which is a system of evaluating human in outward and inward. Ethics is a system which is evaluating the actions of human appearance only. On the other hands,  morals includes thoughts, feelings and intentions through human relationship with God, man and man and man and other creatures while ethic accounts thinking, feeling and intention with man only. Furthermore, moral values ​​are determined by Allah through the Quran and the Prophet's guidance, but ethic is determined by human. Lastly, moral values ​​are absolute, perfect and regular, while ethics ​​are relative, subjective and temporary.
Decay as a verb means to (cause to) become rotten or ruined. As a noun,  verrot, vrot يَنْخُر، يَتَسَوَّس гния kazit se rådne verderben σαπίζω pudrirse, cariarse, deteriorarse lagunema panema, mädanema فاسد کردن؛ خراب کردن mädäntyä (faire) pourrir לְהִירָקֵב @@@לְהִירָקֵב$$$ सड़ना, बिगड़ना, घटना, मुरझाना, नाश होना propadati, trunuti romlik, szuvasodik membusuk rotna, skemmast deteriorare; cariarsi gesti, pūti pūt; trūdēt; sairt reput bederven forfalle, råtne gnić, psuć się apodrecer a (se) strica; a decădea гнить kaziť sa gniti kvariti förfalla, förstöra[], ruttna เสื่อมลง çürümek 使枯朽,使衰退 гнити; псуватися گلنا یا گلانا ، سڑنا یا سڑانا mục nát; sâu răng 使使退the act or process of decaying tooth decay; in a state of decay.[9] In another meaning, decay is used as a verb refers to become bad or be slowly destroyed and become weaker or less powerful. While in noun, it is the process or state being slowly destroyed.[10]
In journal entitled ‘Is There a Moral Decay’, the writers are Vern L. Bullough and Bonnie Bullough. Both of them said, ‘Before we can determine whether there is a moral decay we have to ask what is right conduct, what is meant by right and wrong, and what determines whether a person is righteous, just, virtuous, and good. This is an impossible task, one that the editors of the dictionary avoided by defining everything in general terms. When someone says that there is moral decay, it might be clear to that person what he or she means, but it is not necessarily clear to anyone else. For example, the changing level of tolerance and acceptance of homosexuality might be one person's definition of moral decay and be interpreted by another person as an important moral step forward.’ Overall, moral decay covers all negative behaviors that are not to bring support and gain the strength of the economic structure of the system and practiced in a community or country.
According to Russell Kirk in Wikipedia website, moral decay can be defined as the loss of an aim or object in life such as life values or moral values. From this definition we can simplified that moral decay is a decline of moral values.
Prosper is root word from properity as a verb means to develop in a successful way especially with money. So, prosperity as a noun defines as the state of being successful.[11] In other dictionary, prosperity is success, riches, plenty, ease, fortune, wealth, boom, luxury, well-being, good times, good fortune, the good life, affluence, top dollar (informal), life of luxury, life of Riley (informal), prosperousness a life of peace and prosperity. Opposite is poverty, want, failure, depression, shortage, misfortune, adversity, destitution, indigence.[12]
Based on According to Al-Ghazali this moral decay happens when there is an inverse relationship between prosperity and moral decline. Hedonistic worldview and lifestyle had poisoned us. From that statement we can say that moral decay or moral incline happens when wealth, physical and emotional satisfaction and pleasures become as the fundamental goals in our lives.

Views of scholars
            We heard many opinions and perceptions by people especially the scholars. Among the popular ones, Imam al-Ghazali said that ‘The moral decay happens when there is an inverse relationship between prosperity and moral decline.’ While Aristotle is also well-known by people as a great philosophy, gave his opinion that ‘Moral excellence comes about as a result of habit. We become just by doing just acts, temperate by doing temperate acts, brave by doing brave acts.’ He added, ‘The moral virtues, then, are produced in us neither by nature nor against nature. Nature, indeed, prepares in us the ground for their reception, but their complete formation is the product of habit.
Moreover, the others scholars stressed “Moral Conflicts” are passionate and difficult to resolve. Responses that is normally effective, such as explaining, persuading, and compromising, can make matters worse and drive people further apart in such conflicts. Moral conflicts occur when incommensurate social realities come to clash. In an original synthesis of communication theory and their own research, W. Barnett Pearce and Stephen W. Littlejohn describe a dialectical tension between the expression and suppression of conflict that can be transcended in ways that lead to personal growth and productive patterns of social action.
Besides that, Henry Brooks Adams views on ‘Morality is a private and costly luxury’.
‘The only immorality is not to do what one has to do when one has to do it.’ refers to
Jean Anouilh. Isaac Asimov is unexceptual to give his opinion about that. ‘Never let your sense of morals get in the way of doing what's right.’ The last one is according Sir Alfred Jules Ayer, ‘While moral rules may be propounded by authority the fact that these were so propounded would not validate them.’ So, we are more understanding and knowing the right views for our guide lines in life. 

The factors of moral decay
            There are development in technology field and intellectual. The moral decay among Malay teenagers, increase sociall problems and slippage of religion values which led to apostate represents the moral decline (Nasharudin Mat Isa, 2002).
            According to Aminuddin Ruskam, he recognizes two factors that bring to big impact in moral decay among Muslim societies. The first factor is external factor clearly involves social environment likes influence of media Massa in disseminating culture of glamorous life, entertainment culture, materialistic values.
In general, the development through information and communication of technology (ICT) carried service facility for an international network (internet) from the aspect information, download and portals freely. This situation caused people have individualistic attitude. They prefer to use their time by surfing internet rather than socialized with others. So, it gave us more challenges to foster the great moral in this era.
The second factor is internal factor. It involves confusion of mind, religious fragility among society especially the youth and negative attitude towards communication networks. It refers to lack of resilient of mind and religion to reject the elements of east culture. So, we must gain our knowledge with Islamic education and we practice it. It should be our strength and guidance in overcoming our obstacles. If we lost knowledge and the basic guidance spiritual, we are exposing with two factors simply. First, exposure to the Western mindset continuously. Second, lack of effectiveness approachment used in moral education and religion in fostering the values ​​of spirituality.
From my opinion, there are four factors. The first that I would like to raise is related to ourselves. That`s mean all our behaviour and actions will start from us. We have lust in ourselves. Lust is a gift of Allah to fulfill our desires. But, it always encourages us to do bad things. If we follow our bad desires, we are easier to loss our dignity, religious and cultural values ​​of society and lead to evil, as happens in today's society. So, we must control it and defend with positive guidance and support from the others people. As a weaker human, we suppose to depend on Allah and concern our relationship with Allah and also human.
The second factor is involving people surrounding us. Our relationship is almost to parents, siblings, relatives, friends and societies. Individuals live in a family who is not practice the great lifestyle and the good moral, it grows to the bad behaviour, spoken word and had a bad lifestyle. Besides that, the influence of peers and society are also so worrying us because it is many design our character, moral behaviour and how to act. Usually, we see that school students are always loitering with their friends in midnight.
The next point refers to our environment. If we grow up in town, we can see the moral decay happens rapidly besides us unconsciously. Many places that we can attend for our demands likes disco, pub, cinemas unlimited and no obstruction. Moreover, culture of society that tends toward liberalism and love entertainment such as rock, rap and so on. Initially, the presence of advanced technology through mass media such as newspaper, magazines, and electronic tools likes television, radio, astro, and communication tools as handphone, internet became the worst impact in the formation of a character through scenes of violent and sexual naturally which is could destroy our lives.
Last but not least, another unseen, main enemy who always accompany us with exploiting our lust. Devil works as an destructive agent to destroy us and very annonying since Prophet Adam continued until the Day of Judgement. In short, every people must to be a good person and prepare ourselves to face trials and challenges throughout the life.

The levels of moral
According to Imam al-Ghazali, ‘Morals are inherent in the nature of the soul that makes it easy to act without much consideration’. Hence, Abul a`la al-Maududi divided the levels of moral into four levels which are Faith (Iman), Islam, Piety (Takwa) and Compassionate (Ehsan). All levels arranged smoothly. So, the second level will result after the first level.
 Faith is the foundation of life. It is a declaration of faith and the brochure. When both of it is accepted, then it is will be perfect conditions to qualify as a Muslim. The question is whether such declaration is sufficient to form the basis for building the Islamic life? Or how faith strenghtens us? Islam is a perfect life can only be built when the faith was really holistic and great. Shortly, Muslim life would not be perfect without the support of confession (declaration) a holistic faith.
Islam is the second building of Islamic morality. And its relationship to faith is like the seed of a tree; in which the tree is in accordance with what is in the seeds. Any deficiency in the seed will form an impact on trees growing. In fact, the tree will not grow if not planted
or planted in the dry land and not fertile. The same applies to faith. When we have faith, then surely it will be apparent in all actions of human behavior. If we found deficiencies or defects (Islam forbidden) at any our step we took it, there are something wrong with faith. Even if there is, it is only faith is dim. In Quran, Allah explained how intimates the relationship between faith (belief) and Islam (charity). In fact, even He has promise that the reward to His servants really believe on God and doing the good deeds. As long as the submission one is still not perfect, and his effort on the non-fee-Sabilillah, we know that his faith is weak and relatively impossible to build a righteous and compassionate, even when trying to deceive the some behavior or dress.
Piety is a feeling that comes fear and obedient towards Allah that is highlighted
in every human action.
His heart was constantly surrounded by the fear of God and submits to Him. He realized that life is a test from Him. When life is based on these feelings, the religious value will become apparent and his heart will always be jerks everytimes.
If any person make any contradicts with the will of God, he will account himself to regret and repent from wrong doings. He is not only does it, but he always remains himself be alert in all behaviours and all doubtful things clear let alone illegal. He will always force
himself to perform the command and the duty of God with full consent. Even the soul is always overshadowed by extreme fear of Allah as to make the legs seem to tremble for fear that
contradict the syariah limits.
Imagine a life form that will be produced when all these values ​​dominate our lives. Unlike the duty on some people are only considered as a specific treatment
sometimes quite far-fetched at the same time in their lives, how think, work and their commitment does not match the claims of faith.
In a compassionate is the highest form of Islam. It is a condition that makes a full surrender his life to Islam, his keep in touch with God, his love is deep to the messenger
shrouded soul feel honest and always want to sacrifice. If fear of birth and the fear of God becoming a human driver for always away in him. The courtesy was born out of love for Him
so as to get him to always hunt Allah willing.
As a civil servant, she must carry out her responsibilities vigorously. She is also compliant with all service policies outlined by the government. In short, she was under schema standards. Another example, as a civil servant, he is not only working hard. But, he will implement his responsible or comply with all policies services outlined by the government. He is also a trust and honest person with his employer. His brain is always spinning, thinking of ways how to improve performance services. His soul will not be quiet when he see there is something that threatens employer's safety. Automatically, he will be a voluntere person to do anything even with blood and his life. His dream only to show his excellence to the employer. In conclusion, he wanted to do something beyond what is outlined by schema standards. Two situations above are much related with us. It indicates how an employee with an employer. It seems as a servant with his Creature. As a Muslim, we must aply all levels above without exception. 

The roles of the individual, parents, society and government
            Nowadays, the moral decay is too worried by people. An individual is the one of important person to play a role in avoiding trapped by moral problem. We must strengthen the values ​​of faith and belief in the soul. Controlling the senses of seeing and hearing things that raise or strengthen the lust and desires that the root of all evil and depraved nature. Then, clean our heart through learning the description or explanation of al-Quran and Hadith and also interpretation by scholars of exemplary character.
Next, train ourselves familiarized with the good things as religious form of prayer, fasting and stay away from evil and shameful deeds. Unforgetten, make friends and neighbors who are noble as a friend or neighbor to influence us. Furthermore, learning about the life of the Prophet, his companions, scholars or Auliya and make their lives as role models in our lives. In all our actions must always follow and use common sense and not according to our desires lust. Importantly, we must pray and ask for Allah's help so equipped ourselves with morals and protection of the things that are not aimed.
The family institution is important to help prevent young people from falling into the trap
social ills. In family, there are two people who are the most important person, father and mother or simply known as parent. So, parents should stress about religion. The existence of a strong religious, the youth will not simply fall to the bad matters. In this case, the role of parents is very crucial, especially as a model to their children. Busy is no excuse as a barrier to the case of parental care their children.
 The most important role of parents is knowing and practising quality time to gather with their children. Parents should have time to communicate and concern about their children. In addition, parents must befriend to them. By this way, the children will be more
believe on parents and make them as a reference when dealing with the problem. When children talk about their problems, parents should focus and listen carefully. Do not continue to speculate is not good or even to punish. Give their time to discuss and find the best solution.
Parents are also encouraged to plan activities with their children and family members.
For example, in the month of Ramadan, as far as possible all family members gather for
breaking their fast together or going to the mosque to pray Tarawih.
 The parents also need to constantly monitor the situation of children, cannot 'just take for granted'. They cannot leave their children alone. Children need to be guided. In addition, parents need to know the kids friend their teens. If necessary, occasionally ask that the children brought friends them to the house to be ascertained with whom our children are friends. Parents need to be always pray that their children safe from the things that are not desired.
Those parents should be aware that prayer is very important to well-being of kids.
Indeed, the task of the society towards moral likes faith, thought and worship. Dr. Yusuf al-Qardawi classified task or role to three things, namely Taujih (direct), Tatshit (strengthening), and Himaayah (preservation). Taujih or direct can be done with the dissemination of leaflets, propaganda in various mass media, supplies, preach (da'wah) and guiding the straight path (irsyad). Tatshit (strengthening) was done in a very long time education, with the root of training (Tarbiyah) and deeper in the home, schools and universities. While Himaayah can be implement by two ways. Firstly, the operation of an active public opinion, with asking the right things and forbidding the wrong things, and hate the damage and refused deviations. Secondly, the law or the laws that prohibit damage prior to the occurrence and grant sanction after the occurrence. It is to intimidate (tarhib) who want to deviate and to educate people to damage and clean the congregational climate of moral problems. With these three things, namely taujih, tatsbit and himaayah the Islamic moral will grow, grow and walk in the social life like water flows containing nutrients in the trunk of the tree up to the leaves.
Government should focus film processes. Most of the ads, drama and stories showing a negative action and gave negative impact for television viewers. We can not fail to notice the show on television for fear of its effects, such as sexual orientation picture. In addition, the government should impose penalties and hard on the people who do offense against decency. Besides that, does not give license to the operators that are not healthy places such as discos, brothels and so on. They must also be alert to illegal operators. Provision of immigration to stringent examination when symptoms are not well brought from outside and within countries, such as drugs and others to avoid this symptom easily spread among the people of Malaysia. So, they should have warned us so hard and plays important role to settle down the moral decay.

Conclusion
                   In a nutshell, Islam is a comprehensive concept of morality. It straightened relationship between man to another man, the relationship between humans with God, Allah, man's relationship to the environment and yourself. The procedure is explained in detail the relationship of faith in the discipline, courtesy or moral laws in specific words. Islamic Morals and implementation obidien (ubudiyyah) towards appreciate the faith of God according to the proper way.
                   Islamic Morals also contained the provisions of the law. Islamic law refers to reward system and punishment. A moral of Islam itself is a detailed and disciplined over moral ideas in other religions. It is only commitment and appreciation of the value and the only underlies the problems of Muslims today. High character of the ummah will always be in bawahkeredhaan and protection of God. Development of a moral community bergantungkepada for establishment of individual countries yangtinggi the character will lead to peace and blessings of Allah SWT sentiasadibawah.
What should and what should not be done by a person. Moral also build and nurture the human spirit, creating and directing the behavior of individuals towards the good. Through the good character, we can avoid us from the internal and external crises values such as the collapse of the household and society and morality remajayang backward. The collapse of morality will fail an effort to change a community, but if the great character that we can maintain the position of a community. The importance of moral positions in the association of human life is to live well together in this world and hereafter.
We have to be realistic about this. We have more than a million people in the state and there are certainly some bad apples, or if you like, black sheep.
Related to our Muslim teenagers around us, they are not only dressed in improper attire but they also behave in rude ways. Culture and religion are nothing and excluded from their diaries as a good Muslim. They think freedom and happiness must be their first desires. Unproperly, we put Islam only as a religion but, not as our obedient in religion. It is totally shameless. It is including the way we behave in our daily life. As Prophet Muhammad S.A.W. said,
'This Deen or way of life is easy'; 'Make it easy, don't make it difficult; 'Let people rejoice in being Muslims and not run away from it'.
I hope that our future generation will have some form of insulation against corrupt practices, mismanagement and fraud. With sound knowledge of Islam, I hope the next generation will be more civilised, progressive and morally sound. It’s not going to be easy as there are detractors. I am serious about checking moral decay and transforming the people into a progressive workforce.

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Innama Bu`istu Liutammima Makarimal Akhlak


Pengenalan
Berbagai ragam krisis akhlak dan moral kini terus menular, merebak dan mewabak dalam masyarakat kita khasnya di kalangan remaja. Daripada kes bosia, hamil luar nikah yang diikuti dengan pembuangan zuriat di dalam tong sampah, penderaan, gengsterisme dan vandalisme, rogol, sumbang mahram, ketagihan dadah, hinggalah kepada mat rempit.
Ini terjadi kerana disebabkan oleh faktor-faktor tertentu seperti mencari kepuasan nafsu, ingin membebaskan diri dari kemiskinan, kongsi gelap, dadah, bertelingkah dengan ibu bapa , gagal dalam peperiksaan , bosan duduk di rumah, trauma akibat perbuatan seks dan sebagainya.
Bagaimana Membangunkan Akhlak Umat Islam
Menurut Syaikh Abdul Rahman al Midani; akhlak manusia memang boleh berkembang dan boleh dibentuk dengan berbagai cara. Antara cara-cara tersebut ialah melalui:
a- Latihan Amali Dan Amalan-Amalan Menjernihkan Batin
Pendidikan akhlak tidak hanya melalui penjelasan mengenai nilai-nilai akhlak kepada masyarakat di mana mereka boleh memilih dan menghargai nilai-nilai tersebut tetapi juga pendidikan akhlak boleh dibuat berdasarkan latih tubi, perlaksanaan atau penghayatan yang berterusan umpamanya. Walaupun di peringkat awal ia dilaksanakan kerana arahan atau tekanan dari luar, namun lama kelamaan ia akan menjadi kebiasaan dan tabiat. Manusia sememangnya berupaya memperolehi akhlak atau sifat yang mulia melalui pendekatan ini. Rasulullah s.a.w. bersabda ( maksudnya ) :
"Suruhlah anak kalian bersembahyang ketika mereka berumur tujuh tahun dan pukullah mereka kerana meninggalkannya ketika umur mereka ( menjangkau ) sepuluh tahun.”
Seandainya sembahyang boleh dibiasakan sejak dari kecil , maka puasa, zikir dan tilawatul Qur'an pun boleh diamalkan sejak dari kecil dan secara berterusan; sehingga menjadi amalan yang lazim dan budaya hidup. Amalan amalan ini pastinya lambat-laun akan menjadi adat atau kebiasaan seseorang.

b- Meletakkan Diri Dalam Lingkungan Persekitaran Yang Soleh
Persekitaran sosial dan budaya kerap mempengaruhi manusia. Persekitaran tersebut merangkum tradisi, model tingkah-laku dan saranan serta rangsangan yang bersifat akhlak. Manusia memang sering terpengaruh kepada persekitarannya; dengan cara meniru serta mencontohi figure yang disanjungi oleh mereka. Kewujudan seseorang dalam lingkungan masyarakat yang baik serta soleh sudah tentu akan menyebabkan ia beriltizam dengan amalan dan etika yang dihayati oleh kumpulan tersebut. Ia akan berusaha melaksanakan sesuatu yang disanjungi oleh masyarakatnya. Sebaliknya, perbuatan yang dianggap keji oleh lingkungannya, ia akan berusaha sedaya upaya untuk menghindarinya.
Dalam kontek menegaskan kesan lingkungan ini Allah SWT berfirman:
وَالْبَلَدُ الطَّيِّبُ يَخْرُجُ نَبَاتُهُ بِإِذْنِ رَبِّهِ وَالَّذِي خَبُثَ لَا يَخْرُجُ إِلَّا نَكِدًا كَذَلِكَ نُصَرِّفُ الْآيَاتِ لِقَوْمٍ يَشْكُرُونَ
Maksudnya :
"Negara yang baik (makmur) akan menampilkan hasil mahsulnya ( yang baik dan sihat) dengan izin tuhannya, manakala negara yang buruk, tidak akan dapat menghasilkan kecuali pengeluaran yang buruk. Demikianlah Kami ajukan tanda-tanda kebesaran Kami kepada kaum yang bersyukur."
Surah al 'Araf, ayat 58.
Masyarakat yang buruk ialah masyarakat yang tidak melaksanakan syariat Allah. Mereka menguatkuasakan peraturan dan undang-undang ciptaan manusia yang menyimpang dari jalan Allah yang lurus. Dengan demikian, warganya sudah pasti akan berkembang di dalam masalah sosial yang tidak sihat. Mereka akan terpengaruh dengan gejala-gejala kejahatan yang berkembang pesat dalam masyarakat yang dilanda oleh fenomena moral berkenaan.
c- Qudwah Hasanah
Manusia juga dipengaruhi oleh idolanya. Idola tersebut kerap menjadi rol model dalam kehidupan mereka. Manusia yang berperanan menjadi rol model tersebut antara lain ialah tokoh politik, artis, seniman, atlit sukan, ibu bapa, guru dan sebagainya. Meskipun Rasulullah adalah qudwah yang paling ideal bagi umat Islam, namun penghayatan nilai-nilai yang dibawa oleh Rasulullah hendaklah dipaparkan oleh golongan idola berkenaan. Mereka sewajarnya sentiasa berusaha menunjukkan contoh dan teladan yang terpuji agar dapat ditiru oleh generasi muda.
Penghayatan golongan idola tersebut terhadap nilai-nilai yang luhur dan utama pasti akan mengukuhkan keyakinan generasi baru bahawa keutamaan dan keluhuran memang sebenarnya boleh dilaksanakan. Ia bukan zaman dahulu kala atau idealisme khayalan belaka; tetapi malah ianya suatu realiti yang tentunya boleh dicontohi dan direalisasi oleh generasi masa kini.
Allah SWT berfirman:
لَقَدْ كَانَ لَكُمْ فِي رَسُولِ اللَّهِ أُسْوَةٌ حَسَنَةٌ لِمَنْ كَانَ يَرْجُو اللَّهَ وَالْيَوْمَ الْآخِرَ وَذَكَرَ اللَّهَ كَثِيرًا
Bermaksud;
"sesungguhnya Rasulullah itu bagi kamu adalah contoh ikutan yang baik untuk mereka yang mengharapkan Allah, mengharapkan ( ganjaran ) hari akhirat dan mereka yang kerap mengingati Allah." Surah al Ahzab, ayat 21.
d- Tekanan Sosial Dari Masyarakat Islam
Antara mekanisme yang digunakan oleh Islam dalam membentuk penganutnya serta memastikan mereka melaksanakan tata kelakuan berakhlak ialah wujudnya komuniti sosial yang komited dengan dasar dan prinsip-prinsip Islam. Masyarakat Islam yang mempunyai impak yang besar dan pengaruh yang kuat dalam memaksa individu mengamalkan atau menurut nilai dan norma-norma akhlak. Mereka boleh melaksanakan tekanan moral yang berkesan untuk mendisplinkan golongan yang berkecenderungan untuk melakukan kejahatan. Manusia memang suka dipuji, dihormati dan disanjung. Manusia juga takut dikeji dan dicemuh oleh kumpulan di mana ia mempunyai sense of belonging kepada mereka.
Faktor-faktor tersebut adalah anak kunci yang sedikit sebanyak menentukan tindak-tanduk seseorang. Masyarakat Islam yang aktif boleh berperanan menyuburkan semangat dan amalan hidup berakhlak. Ia juga boleh membendung trend-trend kufur dan maksiat dalam masyarakat melalui perlaksanaan amal mak'ruf dan nahi mungkar. Apabila masyarakat kehilangan keprihatinannya terhadap kewajipan menegakkan makruf dan mencegah yang mungkar, maka bermulalah proses penghakisan moral, akhlak dan martabat umat berkenaan.
e- Kuasa Negara Islam melalui sistem keadilan dan galakannya
Tuntutan akhlak dan nilai-nilainya tidak akan bermaya tanpa digandingi oleh kuasa atau autoriti yang menguatkuasakan nilai-nilai tersebut. Oleh kerana itu, antara tanggungjawab negara Islam ialah mewujudkan mekanisme dan jentera-jentera pentadbiran yang dapat beroperasi untuk memastikan ketertiban serta penghayatan kaedah-kaedah akhlak dalam masyarakat. Jika negara tidak melaksanakan amanah ini kerana ia tidak berlandaskan sistem perlembagaan dan undang-undang Islam sudah pasti keadaan akhlak umat akan lebih parah dan malang.Melalui puluhan kementerian, badan-badan berkanun, agensi-agensi kerajaan akhlak akan digugat dan dihakis. Amalan pemerintahan yang tidak adil menjanjikan kemusnahan bukan hanya dalam bidang akhlak tetapi juga dalam semua hal.
Selain dari apa yang telah dinyatakan di atas maka akhlak juga boleh dibentuk oleh media massa, sekolah, rakan sebaya, masjid atau surau dan sebagainya. Untuk lebih jelas ada baiknya kita terangkan satu persatu peranan tersebut :
f - Peranan Media Massa
Media massa merupakan satu mekanisme yang mempunyai pengaruh yang amat besar dan berkesan di dalam pembentukan keperibadian manusia. Ia merupakan agen sosialisasi dan memainkan peranan penting di dalam menanam dan menggalakkan amalan-amalan berakhlak di dalam masyarakat. Media massa mampu mencorakkan hati budi, mentaliti dan sahsiah umat khasnya yang beroperasi 24 jam. Media massa tersebut perlu bebas dari cengkaman faham sekularisme, budaya komersial yang melampau, faham kebendaan dan dorongan untuk hidup secara mewah dan berpoya-poya. Media massa hendaklah mempunyai asas falsafah dan dasar-dasar komunikasi yang selaras dengan nilai-nilai akhlak Islam. Para petugas media massa hendaklah meningkatkan rasa akauntabiliti, tanggungjawab dan kewajipan mereka untuk memihak dan menegakkan nilai-nilai luhur seperti kebenaran, kejujuran dan sebagainya.
Para pengguna media massa terutama golongan yang bertanggungjawab seperti ibubapa, guru, pemimpin politik dan pentadbir hendaklah lebih bijaksana dalam mengarah, membimbing, meningkatkan rasionaliti, kematangan dan kewaspadaan serta keupayaan memilih siaran yang lebih bermanfaat untuk ditontoni oleh anak-anak atau orang-orang yang di bawah jagaan mereka. Media massa juga sebenarnya boleh menjadi wahana "cultural domination dan imperialisme" melalui berbagai saluran teknologi maklumat yang canggih seperti internet, multimedia dan sebagainya.
g - Peranan Sekolah
Sekolah mempunyai fungsi yang tersendiri dalam mendidik generasi baru dengan akhlak Islam. Antara lain sekolah boleh :
1. Menggandakan keberkesanan institusi pendidikan, menambahkan produktivitinya, meningkatkan kewibawaannya di kalangan setiap anggotanya baik mereka itu pelajar atau petugas.
2. Memperbaiki suasana persekolahan, mendaulatkan undang-undang atau peraturan Islam khasnya yang berkaitan dengan persekolahan, memperbaiki hubungan antara sesama anggota sekolah atau institusi.
3. Memancangkan dengan teguh akan nilai-nilai murni dan akhlak yang baik seperti ketaatan atas dasar kesedaran menghormati peraturan dan pihak yang berwewenang, menjaga perasaan orang lain, menjaga standard layanan dalam berinteraksi, berkorban untuk kepentingan ramai, bekerjasama, melakukan self criticism, mengawal diri, menghargai ilmu, menghormati ulama' dan sebagainya.
4. Membaiki prestasi persekolahan murid-murid dari segi kualiti dan kuantiti, mendidik mereka dari segi agama, akhlak dan sosial secara wajar dan sihat, mempersiapkan mereka agar dapat memikul tugas dan tanggungjawab yang bakal mereka hadapi; di samping melatih mereka menghukum atau menilai diri sendiri sebagai seorang yang berfikiran matang dan bebas.

Para pelajar di sekolah hendaklah dilatih supaya merendah diri dan memuliakan orang yang mereka bergaul dengan mereka. Mereka hendaklah digalakkan lebih suka memberi dari menerima. Dalam sanubari mereka patut dicambahkan keinsafan bahawa tangan yang memberi lebih utama dari tangan yang menerima. Disuburkan pula perasaan zuhud dalam hatinya dan di asuh agar tidak menjadi mata duitan.
Mereka harus juga diasuh supaya tidak meludah dalam majlis atau berkahak, tidak menguap besar di hadapan orang, tidak meletakkan kaki di atas sebelah kaki yang lain serta tidak membanyakkan cakap. Anak-anak harus digalakkan tidak banyak bercakap kecuali sekadar menjawab. Mereka harus dilatih pandai mendengar tuturan orang, lebih-lebih lagi jika orang yang bercakap itu lebih tua daripadanya.
Mereka mesti ditegah mengucapkan kata-kata kesat, atau bergaul dengan orang-orang yang celupar. Justeru antara kaedah mendidik anak-anak ialah melindungi mereka dari rakan-rakan yang jahat. Selain dari itu elok juga selepas belajar mereka dibenarkan bermain-main untuk menyegarkan tubuh mereka setelah penat belajar. Mereka hendaklah diasuh supaya patuh kepada ibu bapa, guru dan menghurmati mereka.
Selain dari latihan serta disiplin seperti di atas, pelajar harus juga dilatih menghargai tugas dan tanggung jawab dengan cara yang bijak, lemah-lembut tanpa terburu-buru melaksanakan kekerasan atau pemaksaan melalui penderaan. Kepatuhan yang lahir dari keinsafan dan kesedaran batin biasanya lebih berkesan dan mantap. Bagi seorang pendidik menggunakan tindakan menghukum biarlah terhadap perkara yang paling akhir dalam fikirannya; samada mereka golongan guru atau bapa. Bahkan apabila hukum hendak dikenakan kepada murid biarlah sekadar yang perlu sahaja.
Bimbingan dan nasihat yang lemah lembut tetapi tegas kadang-kadang lebih meninggalkan kesan di dalam hati serta dipatuhi. Hukuman atau penderaan bukanlah langkah utama yang merupakan satu-satunya penyelesaian. Penderaan adalah langkah terakhir apabila contoh yang baik, nasihat dan hubungan kasih sayang antara anak dan bapa atau guru tidak mampu lagi untuk digunakan.
Rasulullah bersabda yang bermaksud :
"Suruhlah anak-anak kamu menunaikan solat ketika mereka berumur tujuh tahun dan pukullah mereka ( kerana enggan sembahyang ) apabila umur mereka sepuluh tahun".
(Hadith diriwayatkan oleh Abu Daud).
Demikianlah dalam Islam pembelajaran tidak dimulai dengan rotan atau hukuman. Malah di dahului oleh berbagai cara dan pendekatan untuk memupuk kebiasaan dan akhlak yang terpuji seperti melatih bersembahyang dengan menggunakan kecenderungan meniru yang menjadi pembawaan kanak-kanak dan dengan rasa yang penuh kasih sayang dari orang dewasa. Misalnya dengan memaparkan contoh, nasihat, perkataan yang baik, teguran yang lemah lembut tetapi tegas dan sebagainya. Sekiranya cara-cara tersebut gagal barulah dikenakan sedikit kekerasan yang bertujuan mendidik bukan yang menimbulkan kecacatan fizikal dan sebagainya.
Firman Allah :
فَبِمَا رَحْمَةٍ مِنْ اللَّهِ لِنْتَ لَهُمْ وَلَوْ كُنْتَ فَظًّا غَلِيظَ الْقَلْبِ لَانْفَضُّوا مِنْ حَوْلِكَ
"Dengan rahmat ALlah kepadamu itu maka engkau berlemah lembut menghadapi mereka. Seandainya hatimu keras dan (sikapmu) kasar nescaya mereka bubar dari sekelilingmu.
(Surah Ali Imran : ayat 159)
Satu hakikat pembelajaran yang lumrah di sekolah ialah murid kerap dipengaruhi oleh sifat, kebiasaan dan akhlak guru. Sekiranya guru mempunyai akhlak yang baik murid ikut terpengaruh dengan akhlak ini. Demikianlah sebaliknya. Pandangan negatif murid bukan setakat terhad kepada guru tetapi juga mungkin menjangkau kepada pelajaran, kepada sekolah dan seterusnya kepada sistem persekolahan keseluruhannya.
Displin sekolah hendaklah dilaksanakan dengan semangat kerjasama. Guru besar, nazir, guru, murid malah ibubapa hendaklah sama-sama berperanan. Ini bermakna harus ada penerimaan dan permuafakatan tentang polisi dan cara-cara merealisasikannya seboleh-bolehnya dari semua pihak agar masing-masing melindungi dan mempertahankannya.
Usaha mengatasi masalah di sekolah hendaklah dengan menghapuskan sebab-sebab pokok atau punca dari mana datangnya permasalahan itu. Ini termasuk menghapuskan suasana yang membantu atau menyokong salah laku dari murid . Di samping itu juga penyelesaian boleh di usahakan dengan mengambil langkah pencegahan dan mengujudkan suasana yang lebih positif. Ini di dasarkan kepada prinsip "mencegah lebih baik dari merawat".
Antara langkah-langkah yang boleh dilakukan oleh sekolah dalam membangun akhlak ialah dengan mengadakan kempen menyedarkan murid tentang keperluan menghormati disiplin sekolah, menerangkan tentang mengapa suatu disiplin itu dibuat dan memperbanyakkan aktiviti sekolah dengan mempelbagaikannya, menggunakan atau memenuhi masa lapang murid, menghubung-kaitkan sukatan pelajaran dengan keperluan diri dan masyarakat mereka dan langkah-langkah yang lain.
h - Peranan rakan sebaya
Antara agen sosial yang berpengaruh di dalam membentuk sikap dan akhlak individu ialah rakan sebaya. Rakan sebaya merupakan kelompok rujukan bagi remaja di dalam tingkah laku mereka. Perasaan "sense of belonging" kepada kumpulan adalah suatu yang lumrah. Remaja akan mengubahsuai dan mengadaptasikan nilai-nilai rakan sebayanya untuk mendapat penerimaan dan pengakuran mereka. Remaja memang menyedari adanya jurang generasi antara mereka dengan kumpulan dewasa dan mereka sering berhadapan masalah dalam mewujudkan hubungan dengan generasi yang lebih tua. Kajian yang dilakukan oleh Lambert dan rakan-rakannya ( 1972 ) menunjukkan remaja menghadapi berbagai konflik apabila mereka berusaha merentasi jurang generasi( generation gap ) tersebut antara pemikiran mereka dan pemikiran ibubapa mereka.
Kajian menunjukkan bahawa masalah remaja lelaki dan perempuan adalah :
1. kesukaran untuk membincangkan permasalahan mereka dengan para ibubapa mereka dan para penjaga mereka
2. kesukaran untuk memberitahu ibubapa dan penjaga mereka mengenai apa yang mereka lakukan
3. wujudnya jarak yang agak lebar antara jalan fikiran mereka dengan jalan pemikiran ibubapa dan penjaga mereka.
Oleh kerana itu golongan remaja umpamanya sering merujuk rakan sebaya dan kelompok sosial tertentu untuk mendapat bimbingan ke arah menyelesaikan masalah mereka. Kesilapan di dalam memilih kelompok rakan setara samada bersahabat dengan penagih dadah, kutu lepak, gangster atau kumpulan samseng, bohsia dan sebagainya pasti akan mengakibatkan kemusnahan akhlak golongan remaja dan dewasa .

i - Peranan rumah ibadah
Bagi umat Islam, rumah ibadat yang paling penting ialah masjid. Di sinilah umat Islam sering berkumpul untuk menyembah Allah secara berjamaah. Sebab itulah di mana sahaja dalam negara umat Islam; bahkan di kota-kota besar dunia kedapatan bangunan masjid yang berbagai bentuk dan rupa. Ada yang kecil dan ada pula yang besar. Masjid sentiasa menjadi lambang kemegahan umat dan pemerintah Islam. Sebagai tempat ibadah masjid mempunyai peranan dan pengaruh yang besar dalam meneruskan penghayatan nilai-nilai akhlak dalam masyarakat Islam. Kelangsungan budaya, cara hidup dan syiar Islam lumrahnya diperkukuhkan oleh institusi ini. Sebab itu perkara pertama yang dilakukan oleh Rasulullah S.A.W ketika baginda berhijrah ke Madinah al Munauwarah ialah membina Masjid Quba' dan Masjid Nabawi.
Ilmu yang dipelajari di masjid pada masa dahulu bersepadu dengan nilai tauhid, ruh Islam dan akhlak . Ia mengimbaukan ketakwaan dan mengukuhkan ubudiah manusia kepada Allah . Ilmu yang dipelajar membawa berkat dan meningkatkan ciri khasyatullah atau takut kepada Allah. Sebab itu lahir para ulama dan ilmuan yang jujur, soleh dan dedikasi. Apabila semangat dan imbauan seperti ini sudah tiada lagi ilmu disalut dengan semangat kebendaan dan keserakahan manusia. Sebab itu muncullah ilmuan-ilmuan sekular yang amat benci kepada Islam dan ajaran Allah itu sendiri .
Ada berbagai bentuk kegiatan keilmuan, kebudayaan dan kemasyarakatan yang boleh dijalankan di dalam atau di pekarangan masjid untuk tujuan mengukuhkan akhlak dan sahsiah umat . Antaranya ialah:
1.      Kelas Fardu Ain
2.      Kelas Tajuid & Qiraat.
3.      Kelas Bimbingan Remaja.
4.      Kelas Bahasa Arab.
5.      Ceramah Berkala.
6.      Seminar Motivasi dan Pembentukan Syakhsiah.
7.      Kursus Rumahtangga Bahagia.
8.      Kursus Pengurusan Jenazah.
9.      Madrasah atau Sistem Pengajian Formal.
10.  Kursus Dakwah dan Imamah.
11.  Acara Tadarus al-Quran.
12.  Khemah Ibadan & Qiamullail.
13.  Kursus Pengurusan Masjid.
14.  Kegiatan Amar Ma'ruf & Nahi Munkar.
15.  Seminar Pengurusan Sumber Masjid.
16.  Kempin Memakmurkan Masjid.
17.  Membentuk organisasi Belia Masjid ( Rakan Masjid )
Seluruh agensi sosial, Jentera Kerajaan, Kementerian dan Badan-badan Berkanun, NGO dan Badan-badan Korporat, swasta dan awam hendaklah digembling untuk bersama-sama berperanan meningkatkan kualiti akhlak umat samada dengan mengadakan kempen hidup beretika dan berakhlak atau melancarkan buku-buku rujukan yang menjelaskan nilai-nilai akhlak tersebut dan sebagainya.

Rumusan
Gagasan dan tugas untuk membangun, memupuk dan meningkatkan mutu akhlak umat khasnya di kalangan remaja adalah suatu tanggungjawab besar. Ia tidak dapat dilakukan dengan jayanya kecuali oleh manusia yang berjiwa besar dan mempunyai kualiti kemanusian yang tinggi. Ia harus bermula dengan melahirkan para pemimpin umat yang berakhlak, beriman dan bertakwa. Pemimpin yang mempunyai iltizam yang tidak berbelah bagi kepada set-set nilai akhlak Islam, mempunyai kerohanian yang amat tinggi, mewarisi ciri perjuangan Rasulullah yang diutus untuk membangun akhlak dan keluhuran akan beroleh kedudukan dalam pemerintahan lantas memastikan semua umat menunaikan solat, mengeluarkan zakat, menyuruh yang makruf, mencegah yang mungkar, menghalalkan apa yang dihalalkan oleh Allah, mengharamkan apa yang diharamkan oleh Allah. Mereka menguatkuasakan sistem hidup Islam yang memang membela akhlak. Mereka melaksanakan undang-undang Allah yang sebenarnya memang melindungi nilai dan norma akhlak dalam masyarakat.
Dengan adanya pemimpin yang soleh dan bertakwa seluruh agen sosialisasi dan jentera kerajaan akan menghala ke arah yang sama. Rakyat akan terbentuk oleh media yang beretika dan berakhlak. Pengaruh luar yang buruk akan disekat samada dalam rancangan tv, filem, internet maupun apa jua pengaruh lain yang mengancam jatidiri dan maruah umat. Dasar-dasar kementerian dan agensi pembangunan masyarakat akan selaras dengan tuntutan nilai dan tatanan akhlak. Tidak berlaku proses pertentangan antara kerja membangun dan merosak akhlak serentak dalam jentera-jentera berkenaan.
Agenda-agenda khusus menangani gejala keruntuhan dan kemorosatan akhlak akan disusun dengan lebih berkesan dan menyeluruh. Segala-galanya akan dimanfaatkan dalam menjana kekuatan untuk meningkatkan mertabat umat dalam segala bidang.Kebenaran keadilan dan ihsan akan didaulatkan . Manusia diasuh kembali menjadi hamba Allah yang ta'at dan bukan hamba benda, wang, pembangunan, bangsa atau negara. Semoga semua langkah-langkah yang dicadangkan di atas dapat membantu mengatasi masalah keruntuhan akhlak  atau seks bebas yang semakin berleluasa, khasnya di kalangan remaja kita dewasa ini.

norma kehidupan


 sekadar perkongsian..   task yang pernah diberi oleh pensyarah untuk dibuat rumusan adalah tajuk yang begitu sentiviti pada pendengaran kita. mahu atau tida, kita tidak boleh menolaknya kerana ini adalah realiti yang ada di sekeliling kita tanpa kita sedari atau sudah lama kita sedar.. 

SEKSUALITI

Dalam islam, seksualiti dianggap sebahagian daripada identiti kita sebagai manusia.dalam penciptaan manusia, Allah membezakan kita dengan makhluk lain dengan memberikan kita akal dan segala sesuatu yang kita dapat mengawal dari tingkah laku dalam spesies lain, ianya adalah dikawal sepenuhnya oleh naluri kita. Jadi,walaupun hubungan seksual akhirnya boleh menyebabkan pembiakan dan survival umat manusia, konsep naluri, keupayaan kita untuk mengawal diri membolehkan kita untuk mengawal tingkah laku ini.juga fakta semata-mata bahawa manusia adalah satu-satunya makhluk yang terlibat dalam hubungan seks sekali mereka adalah di luar keupayaan fizikal untuk pembiakan, membezakan makhluk  dari segala jenis lain yang terlibat dalam seks bagi maksud semata-mata  adalah pembiakan.
            Seksualiti manusia adalah keupayaan untuk mempunyai pengalaman erotik dan jawapan. Manusia seksualiti juga boleh merujuk kepada cara seseorang seks tertarik kepada orang lain sama ada ia adalah untuk jantina yang bertentangan (Heteroseksual), untuk jantina yang sama (homoseksual),sama ada seks (Biseksualitas), kepada semua identity jantina (pansexualily), atau tidak tertarik kepada sesiapa secara seksual (asexuality) impak seksualiti Manusia budaya, politik, undang-undang dan falsafah aspek kehidupan.Ia boleh merujuk kepada isu-isu moral, etika, teologi, kerohanian, atau agama. Ia tidak bagaimanapun terus terikat kepada jantina.
 Kepentingan dalam aktiviti seksual biasanya bertambah apabila seseorang individu mencapai akil baligh. Sesetengah penyelidik mengandaikan bahawa tingkah lakuseksual ditentukan oleh genetik dan lain-lain menegaskan yang dibentuk oleh alam sekitar.Ini adalah sifat berbanding memupuk perbahasan di mana seseorang itu boleh menentukan sifat sebagai orang-orang ciri-ciri tingkah laku yang disebabkan oleh ciri-ciri semula jadi seperti naluri dan pemacu. Konsep-memupuk boleh ditakrifkan sebagai faktor-faktor alam sekitar atau rangsangan luaran yang mempengaruhi tingkah laku, emosidan pemikiran. perbezaan biologi dan fizikal termasuk kitaran tindak balas seksual manusia di kalangan lelaki dan wanita.
Teori-teori yang berurusan dengan seksualiti, seperti Sigmund Freud adalah pentingdalam memahami seksualiti. Perspektif evolusi mengawan manusia, termasuk teoristrategi seksual menyediakan perspektif lain mengenai seksualiti, seperti juga teori pembelajaran sosial. Sosio-budaya aspek seksualiti termasuk perkembangan sejarah dan kepercayaan agama yang termasuk pandangan Yahudi pada kepuasan seks dalamperkahwinan dan pandangan Kristian bagi mengelakkan keseronokan seksual. Kajian seksualiti juga termasuk penyakit-penyakit kelamin dan jangkitan (PCB dan STI) dan kaedah-kaedah kawalan kelahiran.
            Punca-punca yang menyebabkan terjadinya masalah seksualiti terhadap manusia adalah kerana terlibat dengan seks bebas, keinginan nafsu yang tinggi, penjualan vcd lucah yang berleluasa, ketagihan dadah dan banyak lagi. Manakala kesan-kesannya kepada kita adalah seperti HIV berjangkit, membawa kepada pecah-belahkan keluarga, kes jenayah berleluasa dan lain-lain lagi yang membawa keburukan kepada imej Negara kita.
Keadaan ini yang selalu menghantui kehidupan kita semua secara langsung ataupun tidak. Norma kehidupan kita tidak akan sunyi daripada semua ini meskipun bukankita yang terjebak, saudara-mara dan yang lain. Yang amat menyedihkan kita jika insane yang terhampir secara rela ataupun terpaksa. AWAS!!! Jagalah diri kita dan insan yang tersayang di sekeliling kita. Innallaha ma`ana. 

             

Status Program Pembelajaran di Kalangan Saudara Baru: Satu Kajian Kes di Negeri Melaka




In Malaysia, there are multiraces and multireligion who live together in same place and share multiculture. Here, we can see that majority of Malaysia`s residences are influenced by Malay lifestyle and Islamic culture. It is due to Malaysia is an Islamic country.  Hence, the preacher or ‘da`ie’ who are responsible to call Muslims to depend on Allah only and invite non-Muslims to Islam the true religion. Indeed, Muhammad Mahmud al-Sawwaf and Muhammad Husayn Fadlullah unanimously concluded that the main way of missionary or da`wah approach to invite the people to Islam mentioned in the Quran in chapter An-Nahl, verse 125.
Invite (all) to the Way of thy Lord with wisdom and beautiful preaching; and argue with them in ways that are best and most gracious: for thy Lord knoweth best, who have strayed from His Path, and who receive guidance.
Based on this verse, there are three methods to do the missionary activities with wisdom (bilhikmah), good advice and good teaching (mauizah al-hasanah) and debate with the great ways (mujadalah billati hiya ahsan). The explanation above is related to spread Islam to non-Muslims until they convert to Islam as ‘Muallaf’ and we must pay attention towards them how the learning program can help them effectively.
 Before I move forward to the content, it is better to know the meaning of newly Muslims. Usually, we call newly Muslims as Muallaf because they convert Islam from their original of religion after reciting the word of syahadah. They are willing to live their old religion to Islam is the noble one action in our life. Initially, we can refer the word ‘Muallaf’ in al-Quran, chapter 9 (al-Tawbah), verse 60. Allah mentions clearly about ‘Muallaf’can get zakat and Allah is very Fairness and Justice
In this jurnal, the one of PERKIM`s officer said the sum of them at Kuala Lumpur from year 1995 until 2000, they are 400 people in a year averagely. Their sum will ascending from years to years. This situation is needed to handle by us to concern their welfare including learning program to gain understanding of Islam and do the Islamic practical.
Furthermore, Non Government Organisations (NGOs) are starting to implement the great ways in handling them through the learning process. The one of government`s effort to help them, all states built Islamic hall to run learning activities about Islam among them. But, they cannot get the positive feedback because there are no study to survey the effectiveness of learning program. They are only survey their main problems towards program from previous study.
Additionally, we must focus on objective of program, contents of learning, the learning situation and conveying and operating program. After that, we can gain their knowledge and the others preacher can manage the learning program effectively. Hence, we must foster their feeling to learn, know, understand about Islam and practice it. Mohd Kamal pointed a view that the balanced of religion knowledge with science knowledge is a need in our life and not contrary each other. Both of them is related with eah other and become more perfection. We cannot deny it and separate them into two types likes dualism concept which is Westerners did. All knowledge come from Allah and the main thing is Tawhid.
According Mohd Azmi Mat Sah (2003), he stressed that three types of adult education from Islamic perspective. The first type is learning or education program is lifelong process. Secondly, the process of repeatance is the important one to remind us. The third and the last one is learning society is a need in Islam. We know that Islam emphasize us to gain the knowledge. Like our prophet Muhammad said, all of Muslims is compulsory to seek the knowledge.
Trustly, they have problem to follow Islamic education smoothly because they are new and not familiarize with Islamis practice before that. Ibrahim (1995) and Zainurin (1993) gave their opinions that there are some factors related with them. These problems come from their obedience of Islamic practice, be suitable with Islamic neighbours, their respond especially their family respond. The other problems are hard to learn because their place is quite far from the learning place and their kinds of jobs are not suitable for them after they convert.
From the journal entitled ‘Keperluan Memahami Psikologi Saudara Muslim’ by Nur A`thiroh Masyaa`il Binti Abdullah @ Tan Ai Pao and Fariz Md Sham had a conclusion the three challenges of Muallaf psichology in overcoming their life. Pressure from Islamic attention, depression from their own family, adopted family and society and tention to familiarize themselves surrounding their condition and situation. After we know and understand them, it is an obligation for us to settle down their problems and help them to face it together.
Both of them also recommended six suggestion to cover Muallaf problems. Firstly, give information and exploration to Muslim society and non-Muslims in Malaysia generally about Muslims and the challenges and obstacles that they will face it. Secondly, understanding the factors which are bringing into their Islam converts. Third, understanding level of psychology that they dealed in their daily life as a Muslim. Then, appointing the effectiveness of approachment to society in handling their welfares and guidance for them. After that, helping the commitees of government and NGOs in managing Muallaf from aspect of guidance, welfare and counselling. The last one is increasing study and survey to preach Islam in Muallaf field for a reference soon.
I am interested to highlight the word of ‘Guidance’ which means da`ie must guide and teach the newly Muslims as a whole task in learning program. This is very important to ensure them maintain on one Tawhid , Islamic religion. Then, to make them appreciate the obligatory in Islam and lastly, making Islam as a way of their lifestyle.
If we seek their problem why some of them are not interested or not involved in learning program came from ourselves. We do not know how to attract them based on their needs. For examples, we must know how to interact or communicate with them using their language. From that, we understand what they want and reacts. In addition, we need to use other alternatives as a tool to teach such as audio-visual, radio nd so on.
While Mahfuz (1992) suggested to prepare the education  silibus from basic to deep the contents. Next, he preferred to seperate the class among them to differentiate the old and newly Muslims. In fact, Nor Patimah (1990) gave her recommendation and had agreed to built a library for them and held the class there and  made it as an Islamic information centre. On the other hand, she viewed to use teaching helping tools such as audio-video, having courses in far distance and evaluation systematically along their learning activities among them.
Maziah (1995)  informed us that the facilitators must prepare their techniques of  conveying knowledge by starting the things which is their favourite or enjoyment or preference such as fishing, clean the house, cooking activities and many more. All activities have to relate with our religion. Moreover, the facilitators must speak leniently and polite to touch their heart. Then, they must be sensitive towards the targets that they want speak straight forward. Lastly, they had encouraged to empowered their skills to use many languages likes English language, Tamil language, Mandarin language and so forth. 
The other group from research group, Jabatan Kemajuan Islam Malaysia (JAKIM) (2009) prepared a book guidance of managing Muallaf. They are concerning about their education, guidance and courses by holding courses, Islamic education class and Islamic guidance centre.
Here, I noticed that the researcher emphasized the three aspects are needed to make the successful of this program such as the comfort of class , the ability of teachers in using the variety of language and learning contents.
While Knowles (980), Brazziel (1989) and Garelli (1996) made four importance of components in learning program to mke it smoothly. First, the program objective. Second, the learning situation. Third, the contents of education. Lastly, conveying and managing learning program. 
Findings from this journal, the researcher found the three main problems in learning program are Islamic hall assumed as a reference place to tell their problems, officer job`s status at this place and the curriculum is not complete yet. First, they expected this place as to express their feeling and ask sympathy for their problems. For examples, they know can get Zakat. So, they came here to ask their rights besides telling their problem as a poor life. The next problem is officer job`s status had divided into three aspect, the sum of officers, position status and expertise or skills that they had. Last but not least, based on the curriculum is not complete, the officers found that the module is too general and not specified towards background of students differently and having the difference of problems and complicated. Therefore, the teachers are forced to use the books that existed at marketing. This situation need our high level of effort to understand it.   
In a nutshell, from this journal, it tells us about the importance of learning program status to newly Muslims. All people must co-operate to make the learning program change and modified effectively and get the positive impacts.
The writer suggested five implementation based on his findings. There are a group of people to create and write the detailed silibus accordance the students` background and their abilities. Holding ‘Islamic Information Centre’ (IIC) in library at the strategic places sucha as at mid town. The religious officers likes Imam, Ustaz and commitees of security village should to take them as their adopted family to ease them as reference to settle down their problems. Jabatan Agama Islam Melaka (JAIM) should hold networking and linkage with the other private companies to give the suitable job for Muallaf. Recommendation for future research to give more attention towards the ways of learning process effectively among newly Muslims as proffesionaljob such as doctor, lawyer, engineer, and many more.
Initially, there are many methods to make the learning process  effectively depending on creativity and perseverance by looking for the chances and alternatives. I think and hope Muslims as a whole are concerning about the effective and achievement of learning program towards newly Muslims become a real, good Muslim. Besides that, NGOs need to gain effort in helping them to strengthen their aqidah especially Muallaf in rural places.  God willing, we are going to excel and achieve the common goals or desires according to Quran and Sunnah. We are the combatant of Islam, our religion. We cannot judge and blame others without ourselves doing it together.